Tag Archive for relaxed

Naturally Judged?

There are a few things about me that are not secrets; I am natural, I straighten my hair and I don’t care. Although I never considered the fact that straightening my hair makes me less natural, I found out after a trip to the beauty salon it does! At least to some people.

Living in Atlanta has its pros and cons. The largest con if you a woman with natural hair is the humidity. Some days upon stepping outside I can feel my hair swell up. If you are natural you know the  feeling. You immediately know that whatever ”look” you perfected in your bathroom mirror is no longer cute.

Being that this is my second natural summer, I had a game plan. I got a sew-in! Which in fact saved my look and hair. I only have a small part of my hair out and the virgin hair doesn’t go crazy when I step outside. After a recent trip to the hair salon to get my extensions washed and straightened, I ran into an old natural hair friend.  The first thing she says to me is, “Oh so you aren’t natural anymore?” I was shocked – I told her I was. She proceeded to tell me that if I wanted to wear my hair straight, I should have kept my relaxer.

So ladies I ask you this, where is the “So you want to be NATURAL” rule book? Why am I less natural because I can appreciate a good straightening from time to time? Why does everything have to be a competition? We need to support each other on this natural hair journey. My hair is just as healthy as the next naturalista and I like to be versatile. So I said it before and I will say it again.

There are a few things about me that are not secrets; I am natural, I straighten my hair and I don’t care.